Do any of these sound familiar?
- “I avoid talking about things that are important to me”
- “I feel alone, even in a relationship”
- “I have trouble keeping closeness and affection”
- “My reactions sometimes seem to be bigger than the situation calls for”
I’ve experienced all these things myself. As I worked on them and grew through therapy myself, I discovered that I want to help others do the same. This is why I am a therapist.
Do you have the sense that your relationship could be great, if you just worked some things out? Do you find yourself arguing, distancing, or being afraid to tell your partner what you really want? Do you feel rejected or uncomfortable but can’t figure out exactly why?
Couples counseling can help open communication and increase trust and intimacy. You will learn to keep discussions from overheating, to speak up and to listen. You’ll get the tools you need for greater insight into your partner’s world and how to support each other’s journey in life.
My approach is trauma informed, meaning I am trained in providing safety and healing for those who carry emotional wounds from past distressing events, particularly from difficult or neglectful childhood experiences. These frequently shape how we interpret and respond to the important people in our lives. Working to help a couple recognize and heal each other’s traumatic hotbuttons is an important element of my approach to therapy.
Here are some of the areas that I can help you with:
- Developing trust, honesty, and intimacy
- Improving communication
- Healing the reactive habits that come from a dysfunctional family
- Putting traumatic past events to rest
- Developing assertiveness
- Managing anger
Hi, I’m Alan:
I help couples with counseling services here in Federal Way. If you have difficulty talking about important things, therapy can help you communicate better and stay in touch with love.
My approach helps you develop understanding and acceptance so you can get control of negative cycles and emphasize the positive ones. We’ll work together to find the core feelings that help you stay in touch with love and support each other’s personal struggles.
Hours and Address
(In person office hours will be available in Federal Way in 2022!)
Thursday through Friday, 11am to 7pm by appointment
Saturday, 11am to 3pm by appointment
Alan Barclay, MA, LMFT
Individual and Couples Therapy
Federal Way, WA 98003
Schedule an appointment now:
or Phone: +1 (206) 854-7349.
(To read about individual therapy services, click here.)